I’m not so sure I can believe a woman if she says she has NEVER compared herself to another woman. I think it’s absolutely human nature to admire what other women look like, how they dress, what their hair looks like, if they have a boyfriend, and if they’re impacting the lives of other people. I compare my own body, skin, hair, and influence to that of other women, but ironically, there are women everyday who see me and want to look like me or want the things that I have. That thought makes me want to strive and work even harder to help women see the beauty in self-love and self-consciousness.
While it’s human nature to compare yourself to other women, I do think there is a time where every woman should grow out of that nasty habit. We all should come to a point in our own personal development where we see the importance of self awareness, self appreciation, self love, and self confidence. We should all come to terms with loving ourselves and see the value in that concept.
Learning to love, appreciate, and be comfortable with yourself goes far beyond being okay with what you look like. You have to acknowledge ugly habits, see the flaws in your character, and commit to becoming a better person. You have to love your insides and your outsides! You have to become comfortable with who you are and see the potential and purpose in YOU. If you don’t, no one else will. I’m still coming to terms with who I am, who I want to be, and how I want others to see me. But one thing I do know is that I have never loved myself more and that has made all the difference.
It’s important to know that in this process of growing and learning, there will be times when envy, jealously, and frustration overwhelm you due to comparing yourself to other women. You can overcome those feelings though. It won’t always be easy, but it will always be worth it.
Nobody can love and appreciate YOU better than God and YOU. Love God, Love people… and love yourself fiercely, unconditionally, and eternally.
“Right now, can you make an unconditional relationship with yourself – just at the height you are, the weight you are, with the intelligence that you have, and your current burden of pain – can you enter into an unconditional relationship with that?” –Pema Chödrön